Life Makeover

Tick Tock, Tick Tock. Does time seem to be speeding up the older you get? There may be an unlikely culprit keeping you stuck in life’s holding pattern – it’s physical and emotional clutter that has crept into your life over the years. In this article, I’m going to provide a three step solution you can use today to start letting go of the clutter and declutter your life.

We all have excess material things and even people in our lives that may cause us chaos. When you’re constantly focused on the clutter, you don’t have the energy to do the things you want. I got an email the other day with a new definition for CHAOS. It stands for Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome. If this happens to describe you, it’s time for a life cleanse. Part of the process of letting go of clutter is acknowledging the emotional junk causing you to stay stuck in life.

If you’ve been running a con game with yourself — pretending things are ok, but you know deep down they’re not. And you’re worried all the balls in the air you’re juggling are going to come crashing down, here’s help.
THE 3 STEP SOLUTION TO DECLUTTER YOUR LIFE
Step 1. Make a Decision

Become awareness that things are not going the way you want them. Here’s how clutter begins. It starts out harmlessly. It’s barely noticeable. You continue to bring things into the home, but you never get rid of anything. Then one day, you just can’t find anything in your home. Perhaps finding your keys turns into a weekly major event.

If you don’t make a conscious monthly effort to purge the junk in your life, you’ll be using energy you could be using for something else and this may cause you to get into a rut.

Until you change your thoughts about how clutter is controlling your life, the clutter will come back no matter how much you throw out. Flush out what’s not working in your life. You’ve heard of the fat flush? Well this is the lifestyle flush. Become aware that what you’re doing is currently not working. Make a decision to start decluttering your life, both physically and emotionally.

Step 2. It’s all In Your Head

Most self help books try to provide you with information to help you effect just about any type of change. But unfortunately, information is simply not enough. If you don’t get clear on WHY there’s so much clutter in your life, all the information, seminars and coaching you receive may be all in vain. To make room for the life you want, you’ve got to do some emotional housecleaning.

Another self defeating emotion that inflicts many people is guilt. Guilt revolves around living in the past and in the future. And when you do this, you can’t live in the moment.
Spending your life energy worrying about the past or the future is a one way street to feeling bad about yourself. You can’t rewind to the past and you can’t fast forward to the future. So you’re not even living in the now. You’re Stuck!

Step 3. Release Toxic People and Thoughts

Look at yourself, if you’re tired, stress, overwhelmed, trying to live up to people’s expectations and you’re sick of it. Perhaps you’re afraid to make changes because of what others may think of you. Here’s a decision you need to make for yourself. Are you more committed to what people think of you or to getting your life back on track?

The toxic people I’m referring to are dream stealers. They take delight in bursting your bubble, negative Nellies. They can even be your family members, spouses or boss. These are the types of relationships that will take up a lot of your energy if they are toxic.

Toxic thinking is another area of mental clutter. You must get absolutely crystal clear on what results you want. If you decide to clear the clutter, make a plan and so something every day to bring you closer to your desired result.

A toxic environment can also be physical clutter. If you house is bursting at the seams, you may not need a bigger house. You may just need to get rid of things that you have no intention of ever using again. Physical clutter can sometimes be a manifestation of what’s going on in your life.

Resist the thoughts rolling in your head in which you are powerless to control the clutter, both mentally and physically.

One of the best ways of letting go of clutter is to acknowledge it and move on. You are where you are. Live in the moment. Act on the 3 steps provided in this article and take baby steps each day to detox your life.

If you happen to find yourself stuck in life and want to stop asking yourself, ’why am I unhappy’, I invite you to download my Totally FREE Get Your Life Unstuck Audio Training program. Visit www.LifeUnstuck.com

Here’s another one of my sites with articles to help you escape life’s holding pattern and start living the life you deserve.
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In part two of this article, we continue with the question most adults ask and it’s “Why Am I Unhappy”? Well, I’ve compiled 5 more reasons which I’m going to cover in the last of this 2 part article series. 

Remember Nicole? Nicole is sad and unhappy with the life she’s living. Below you’ll discover the remaining 5 reasons why poor Nicole is so unhappy. You may see glimpses of yourself and how you’ve been absolutely successful in making your life suck!

Reason #6: Not Being Focused

In today’s super-hyped, noisy world, there are so many things clamoring for our attention. Lack of focus causes you to become confused. I like to refer to it as B.S.O. (bright shiny object) syndrome. This is because a confused mind always say no! And when you are confused, you lack focus which may contribute to your unhappiness.

Reason #7: Taking Things Personally

Nicole takes everything personally. This is a major cause of her unhappiness. Everyone’s problems become her problems. She feels that when someone has a problem, that it’s her problem, and as you guessed it, the unhappiness train speeds on to SadTown. 

Reason #8: Not Seeing The World As It Is

Our friend Nicole sees the world as an unfriendly place. She doesn’t realize that she really sees the world as SHE is, and not as the world REALLY is. It’s all a matter of perspective. If she could just shift her perspective, she would see that if she changes the way she looks at the world, the world she looks at changes.

Reason #9: Depending On Others For Your Happiness

Most women, not all, tend to look to others to supply their dose of happiness. They look to family, friends, boyfriends, husbands, children and other people to make them happy. While it’s nice to have the love and support of people who contribute to your happiness, you have to ultimately be responsible for your own happiness. Start imagining your possibilities and look within to make yourself happy.

Reason #10: Being a Conformist

Earl Nightingale, who is considered the founder of the personal growth industry stated that the problem with most people today is – they conform. They want to be like everybody else. He says we don’t think for ourselves. And Nicole fits this mold. She tries not to rock the boat.  She wants to be like everyone else. No wonder she is unhappy. Everyone is unique and it’s when we try to hide the very traits that make us unique we become unhappy. 

So there you have it – the last 5 reasons that can cause you unhappiness. Perhaps you saw a piece of yourself in Nicole. When you take life so seriously, it can make you miserable. By embracing one of the natural laws of the universe – the law of polarity, which states that everything has an opposite action, all that you need to do is reverse the last five reasons and start creating the life you deserve.

If you happen to find yourself stuck in life and want to stop asking the asking yourself, ‘why am I unhappy’, I invite you to download my Totally FREE Get Your Life Unstuck Training program. Visit www.LifeUnstuck.com

 Most of us at some point in our adult lives may ask ourselves this question – “Why Am I Unhappy”?  Well, I’ve compiled 5 reasons which I’m going to cover that may contribute to your unhappiness.  In this 2 part article series, I want to introduce you to Nicole.  Nicole is sad and unhappy with the life she’s living.  You’ll discover the first 5 of 10 reasons why poor Nicole is so unhappy. You may even see glimpses of yourself and how you’ve been absolutely successful in making your life suck!

If you watch children at play, whether indoors or on the playground, you’ll notice the majority of children are happy.  Of course, there will always be events in kids’ lives that may cause unhappiness, but this is usually a happy time for most children.  

So what happens to us as we leave the teenage years behind and enter adulthood?  We start conforming to adulthood and gradually abandon our dreams and settle for a life of mediocrity.  We tell ourselves we’re being responsible adults and resign ourselves to things that don’t make our heart sing.  Underneath it all, that nagging question “Why Am I Unhappy” raises its ugly head over and over again. 

Reason #1: Unrealistic Expectations

Nicole expects perfection both in people and in the things she does.  This quest for perfectionism causes her undue stress.  When things fail to go the way she expects them to, her expectations are dashed and unhappiness sets in – once again.

Reason #2: Settling for a Life of Mediocrity

Nicole is in good company with several other people in this regard.  Because of past frustrations and failures, she wrongly believes her future is set in stone, based on her personal history.  To avoid further disappointment, she’s resigned herself to living a life of quiet desperation.

Reason #3: Letting Others Control Your Emotions

This one hits home for many people.  They let others control their emotions.  For example, Nicole works as a salesperson in a department store.  When people treat her rudely, she allows their opinion of her to define herself.  She get upsets and then becomes annoyed with herself for giving strangers control over her emotions. This continues the cycle of unhappiness.

Reason #4: Not Taking 100% Personal Responsibility

A surefire recipe for unhappiness is not taking 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you.  This is a bitter pill to swallow because so many people would just love to have someone else to blame.  A scapegoat.  This way, the pressure is off them and they don’t need to look at the real reason for their unhappiness – themselves.

Reason #5: Not Imagining Your Possibilities

I like to think that imagination is an adult tragedy.  As we cross the bridge from childhood to adulthood, we seem to lose our imagination.  Recapturing your imagination, remembering the lost dreams you had and pursuing them will stop you from asking yourself the question “Why Am I Unhappy”.  Anything that you want to be, do or have is within you.  You just have to have to courage to play big.

So there you have it – the first 5 reasons that can cause you to be unhappy.  Perhaps you saw a piece of yourself in Nicole.  When you take life so seriously, it can make you miserable.  By embracing one of the natural laws of the universe – the law of polarity, which states that everything has an opposite action, all that you need to do is reverse the first five reasons and start creating the life you deserve.

If you happen to find yourself stuck in life and want to stop asking the asking yourself, ‘why am I unhappy’, I invite you to download my Totally FREE Get Your Life Unstuck Training program. Visit www.LifeUnstuck.com